tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5927759064508057821.post5909161582945048406..comments2023-07-26T07:04:40.069-05:00Comments on Our Homestead For Him: Letting Your Husband LeadJesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03030508564441677291noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5927759064508057821.post-74434790178855113362013-06-03T05:53:11.010-05:002013-06-03T05:53:11.010-05:00This is probably one of the things I struggle with...This is probably one of the things I struggle with most. I married later in life - and both my husband and I lived on our own for several years before getting married - so we are both quite independent. I am learning, little by little, to let him _____ (insert here). So often I want to make sure I "hold up my end" - when he all he's trying to do is help lighten my load. I have a strong sense of responsibility - that while is good, sometimes robs both of us the joy of giving and receiving.Rosilind Jukichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08304788871235090080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5927759064508057821.post-16645736245800008822013-05-28T20:43:37.382-05:002013-05-28T20:43:37.382-05:00I love your response to the above comment from Kar...I love your response to the above comment from Karrie. Submission will look different in every marriage. My husband wants and expects me to make decisions in the home without dragging him into every one of them. But he also wants to know that his opinion is valued and his authority is respected. Thanks so much for linking this post up with me at Walking Redeemed last week!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12014044869620640593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5927759064508057821.post-22831372017777691352013-05-24T11:43:07.548-05:002013-05-24T11:43:07.548-05:00Understanding submission can be difficult. Some se...Understanding submission can be difficult. Some see it as being a doormat (and, when done incorrectly, it can be), but they are wrong. Godly submission is both God-honoring and building for both the husband AND the wife! <br /><br />God has taught you some wonderful and rich truths about how submission should be worked out in your marriage. Very good post and thank you for sharing it and linking up at Teaching What Is Good.Kate @ Teaching What Is Goodhttp://teachingwhatisgood.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5927759064508057821.post-14596189300530711062013-05-23T20:13:21.409-05:002013-05-23T20:13:21.409-05:00Hi Jess, I'm new to your blog and I love it! I...Hi Jess, I'm new to your blog and I love it! Ironically, I've been thinking a lot about submission in marriage recently, and your thoughts echo many of mine. I really appreciate your challenge here and I'm so glad you've linked it up at Wedded Wed. I hope to see you again next week!Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13156048755652103073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5927759064508057821.post-70175292294651087212013-05-22T12:15:00.674-05:002013-05-22T12:15:00.674-05:00This was a great post! I loved your honest and tra...This was a great post! I loved your honest and transparent testimony. Thanks so much for sharing your heart and your experience! Like you, I learned so much the hard way! Thankfully, God doesn't give up on us -- He keeps teaching and turning our hearts toward his ways! I pray that many young women will read your testimony and realize the wisdom of following God's pattern for marriage.<br /><br />blessings,<br />Elizabethbusymomof10https://www.blogger.com/profile/16801397516931688515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5927759064508057821.post-73230273447427668432013-05-22T11:48:14.328-05:002013-05-22T11:48:14.328-05:00Great and important post! Thanks for sharing. Foun...Great and important post! Thanks for sharing. Found you on the Welcome Home Wednesday link up. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10885747044881092728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5927759064508057821.post-38175081380772681442013-05-21T22:21:37.731-05:002013-05-21T22:21:37.731-05:00So happy you've been linking up at Marriage Mo...So happy you've been linking up at Marriage Mondays so I could find your site. Great posts!Fawn @ Happy Wives Clubhttp://www.happywivesclub.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5927759064508057821.post-3677310190993210022013-05-21T09:34:45.451-05:002013-05-21T09:34:45.451-05:00Yes, exactly, Kendra. Well said! Thanks for visi...Yes, exactly, Kendra. Well said! Thanks for visiting!<br />Blessings,<br />JessJesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03030508564441677291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5927759064508057821.post-62969786231247277652013-05-21T09:04:05.167-05:002013-05-21T09:04:05.167-05:00I just read that post up above from Karrie and I l...I just read that post up above from Karrie and I love your response. Sometimes we women think the only way for our husbands to lead is if they make all the decisions and all that.<br /> But I am learning that sometimes by me taking over and doing things that hubby don't wish to do, or don't have time for is still letting him lead. He has stated that he would rather I take charge on different things, and my doing it, is submission.<br />We are all very different, yes?A Proverbs 31 Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02086440073763745054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5927759064508057821.post-56290000643650669332013-05-20T09:48:19.626-05:002013-05-20T09:48:19.626-05:00We use our gifts from the Lord to help them to be ...We use our gifts from the Lord to help them to be wonderful leaders in whatever ways that they are capable of. It takes time to develop this, but it is nothing but blessing when you do! Even with a major disability, I am still able to let my husband lead in whatever ways he is still able to by doing the above. He is a blessing to me. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04993632160685894082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5927759064508057821.post-1269901173686377732013-05-18T06:54:16.810-05:002013-05-18T06:54:16.810-05:00This topic is a difficult one for many women. I am...This topic is a difficult one for many women. I am glad you shared how beautiful it all works when we live within God's guidelines. <br />I grew up in the 70's era when we were taught we had come a long way baby and submission was a dirty word. It's taking me a lifetime to relearn some things.<br /> <br />(I'm stopping over from Hearts for Home BlogHop)hsmominmohttp://apronstringsotherthings.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5927759064508057821.post-72463372760782135502013-05-17T09:46:50.639-05:002013-05-17T09:46:50.639-05:00I believe if we give honor and preference to one a...I believe if we give honor and preference to one another and seek to serve, it creates a beautiful picture of how Christ humbled himself. Definitely though, the man is in the role as leader, and we are called to be his Help and cheerleader. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5927759064508057821.post-49191883698912976242012-10-30T19:08:24.105-05:002012-10-30T19:08:24.105-05:00This is such a great post!! I think this is someth...This is such a great post!! I think this is something that is hard for most women...myself included!!<br />Thanks for linking up to the GFC Hop!!<br />New follower!<br /><a href="http://sincerely-leslie.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">XOXO, Leslie</a>lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05911704883279501607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5927759064508057821.post-31803120593120900832012-10-28T21:31:33.384-05:002012-10-28T21:31:33.384-05:00Oh my goodness this was SUCH a hard lesson for me ...Oh my goodness this was SUCH a hard lesson for me to learn as well. I was raised to be able to take care of myself no matter what so I always relied on myself to do things. When i got married this did not change and it was hard for me to submit. I actually had NO idea how to do that. God has been showing me SO much in this area the past few years and it's really been awesome!Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01074086681303653107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5927759064508057821.post-1401660644947474942012-10-26T15:46:01.074-05:002012-10-26T15:46:01.074-05:00You are such a good example of a Godly woman! I ju...You are such a good example of a Godly woman! I just found your sweet blog through the Beholding Glory linkup. Now following you via GFC and excited to read more! :)<br /><br />XO<br />Erin<br /><br />sweetnessitself.blogspot.comErin James https://www.blogger.com/profile/01329012663561297080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5927759064508057821.post-27432139696233336022012-10-21T21:12:44.366-05:002012-10-21T21:12:44.366-05:00Jess...I loved your honesty and testimony. Thank y...Jess...I loved your honesty and testimony. Thank you for the reminder and for sharing at WJIM this week. I'm excited to feature your post this week. Blessings. Naomihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08646454855389988421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5927759064508057821.post-45322470437347033342012-10-19T10:34:30.233-05:002012-10-19T10:34:30.233-05:00This is a wonderful post! Thank you so much for sh...This is a wonderful post! Thank you so much for sharing and linking up! Our husbands need our respect and want to lead the family! Each man leads differently, but it is their desire to lead! Blessings!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12164088470590960872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5927759064508057821.post-62080180409862657442012-10-15T16:58:10.109-05:002012-10-15T16:58:10.109-05:00Thanks for this post! I was the oldest kid in my f...Thanks for this post! I was the oldest kid in my family..and naturally a leader, organizer, manager...so I definitely need to be aware of whether I am or am not submitting to my husband and allowing him to lead and fulfill his role and use his gifts, too! Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07894832851934334471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5927759064508057821.post-41351125918308323842012-10-15T13:42:25.947-05:002012-10-15T13:42:25.947-05:00Karrie~
I think you misunderstood the point of thi...Karrie~<br />I think you misunderstood the point of this post. It sounds to me like you are already letting your husband lead. He has stated that he would like you to make more decisions at home, and that is what you are doing. God's Word lays out perfectly what role husbands and wives have in a marriage. Thanks for stopping by!<br />Blessings,<br />JessJesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03030508564441677291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5927759064508057821.post-30614536585424173612012-10-14T23:42:53.556-05:002012-10-14T23:42:53.556-05:00If I acted all meek and stepped back like that, my...If I acted all meek and stepped back like that, my husband would be repulsed, frustrated, and turned-off. He works very hard for us so I can stay home with my son and take care of our family. His job is very stressful, and he doesnt like to have to come home and make decisions all the time. He LOVES that I am in charge at home and has told me so many times. He says it is an absolute relief to him and a joy knowing that I can do it all. He is proud of all my acomplishments over the years and loves that we can work side-by-side - that I can do (nearly) all that he can do. We have many friends that are submissive like that, and my husband has always said "who would want a woman like that? They should just get a dog to boss around instead!" - believe me, a take-charge attitude is a HUGE turnon for a man. I would never degrade, humiliate, demasculinize, or otherwise debase my husband - his opinion and input are always welcome, heard, and valued - as are mine. You have somehow misunderstood your own value, and for that I am terribly sorry. Your husband must not be secure enough to deal with a woman who can decide and speak for herself - what a terrible shame and a total humiliation on your part.Karrienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5927759064508057821.post-77781161064046779432012-10-12T23:56:06.289-05:002012-10-12T23:56:06.289-05:00We've done the big role switcharoo the last fe...We've done the big role switcharoo the last few years as well. Ahh...what a blessing to stop being the independent control freak that I once was! My husband is such a gentle and kind leader...praise God!<br /><br />Blessings to you!<br />Mrs. Sarah CollerAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10004203870466008754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5927759064508057821.post-57055937137832576152012-10-11T22:49:38.143-05:002012-10-11T22:49:38.143-05:00This was such a good honest story which will encou...This was such a good honest story which will encourage many other women because so many of us didn't know anything about submission either!!<br /><br />Thanks for linking up this week over at WholeHearted Home.<br />Judithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14303626433109140676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5927759064508057821.post-24504625506178307392012-10-11T15:57:47.201-05:002012-10-11T15:57:47.201-05:00I agree! Let your husband lead and if he is unwil...I agree! Let your husband lead and if he is unwilling, prayer can change a lot of things. God bless you, and thank you for this post!Jerraleahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04303751802364926617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5927759064508057821.post-65540628050276528942012-10-10T08:21:03.592-05:002012-10-10T08:21:03.592-05:00It can be difficult to allow your husband to lead,...It can be difficult to allow your husband to lead, can't it? Such an important lesson to learn...Jennihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16515053617889270906noreply@blogger.com