hubby took this picture while camping with one of our sons this past summer
- Listen to him. Listen to him when he tells you what he likes or doesn't like. My hubby doesn't have much to say about what I wear (do you like pink or blue better?), how I style my hair (do you like it long or short?), meals (do you want chicken or beef?), and many other things. But one day he stated that he likes the smell of coconut shampoo. I went and sniffed out all the shampoo's in the store to find one that smelled like coconut~just because he likes it!
- Look attractive for him. If you are a stay~at~home mom, it is easy to throw your hair in a pony tail and wear your most comfy pair of whatevers. Comb your hair, put some color on your lips, put on a clean shirt (because we know that there is spit up, spaghetti sauce, and something else we can't recognize on our shirts by the end of the day!!) and greet him at the door with a smile and kiss when he gets home.
- Create a peaceful environment. Make sure the house is picked up, kids are cleaned up, and supper is warming when hubby comes home from work. It is easy to think "Good he's home, now it's his turn to take care of things!" If he likes to unwind after work, give him a few minutes. If he enjoys some rough~housing with the kids, let supper wait 15 minutes. Whatever he needs to get in the right frame of mind for his family, allow it.
- Let him know you miss him. I am not a huge fan of texting, but a simple text or e~mail letting him know you miss him and are looking forward to his return will make him rush home after work.
- Do things with him that you know he likes. I don't particularly enjoy football, but my hubby is a big Green Bay Packers fan. I used to enjoy annoying him during the games, but now I feel differently. This is something that he enjoys, so I sit (mostly quietly!) with him and watch the game with him. Try this in any area~movies, sports, concerts, games, etc.
- Be available for him. It is easy to focus all your attention on your children~especially if they are small~and give hubby our leftovers. Make yourself available for him when he wants to talk with you. He'll know that he is a priority in your life and he'll be happier.
- Pray for him. This is by far the most important in my opinion. I love the book "The Power of a Praying Wife". It has 30 things to pray over your husband. I have them written down in my bible, whatever date we are on is what I pray over my husband that day.
- Love him! What used to be cute, you now find annoying. What you once thought attractive, you now find ridiculous. It's easy to let those little things become big things. Love him like you did on your wedding day. Sometimes that's easier said than done, but ask the Lord to direct you in this area.