Tuesday, November 5, 2013

Worth Rubies~A Pause To Reflect

I want to address a few things.  When I started my blog, I had no real idea about what I wanted it to be.  I tried copying things that seemed to work well for other bloggers, but I never really felt like things fit.  After some prayer and reflection early last year, I realized what my mission in writing this blog would be and I try to stick with this.

I found in my own life when I was a young wife and mother, I had a lack of a mentor.  I really didn't know what scripture states about my role as wife and mother.  As a result, both my marriage and family were not what it should have/could have been.   I looked to blogs and Christian writers along with scripture to learn about these things.    This has been a blessing in my marriage, parenting, and home.  What I want to do with this blog is to share with other women what I have learned as a wife, mother, and homemaker, and hopefully encourage other women. 

What I do not want my blog to be is a source of frustration and discouragement.  I feel I need to get very real with you.  I do not write my blog because I am a perfect wife and mother.  I do not write my blog because I have it all together.  I do not write my blog because I know everything about everything. 

If you came to my home and spent the day with me you'd see I'm in the same place you are.  My marriage is not perfect.  I am a sinner married to a sinner.  My children are not perfect.  They argue with each other, are disobedient, and forgetful.  My house is not tidy, and sometimes it's not real clean either!  I struggle with self confidence and fear.  I loose my patience, my temper, my tongue, and sometimes my mind!! 

I pray you will be encouraged by what I write, because I write it not only for you, but myself as well.  When I write about parenting or marriage, I am also writing it to myself.  I desire to be better myself, and want you to find that joy as well.  I don't write about the Proverbs 31 woman because I am one.  I write about the Proverbs 31 woman because I want to be one.  I believe that together we can change the next generation and turn hearts back toward Christ.   

Please, please, please understand that I do not have a perfect marriage, perfect family, and perfect life. Please don't leave this blog discouraged because I am writing about a subject you feel you don't measure up to.  More than likely, I don't either, but am working on it.   

Be encouraged!


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  1. I was talking to a friend the other day, who is also a blogger, and we were talking about our readers putting unrealistic expectations on us. Our readers need to know that we are real people with real struggles and we are sinners saved by grace. Thanks for being real!

    Thanks for linking up with Woman to Woman's Word Filled Wednesday! God bless.

  2. Thank you for your honesty, for the imperfections. We all look forward to that day when Jesus "perfects" us. Until that day, we are all imperfectionists walking together on the journey of life

  3. Thanks for sharing so honestly. I do believe that God calls us to be real and that this is a huge encouragement to others.
    Thanks for sharing at Essential Fridays.

  4. Jess - I write for me, too - to encourage and cheer me on in the challenges. Billy Graham said that to change someone's life, tell a story - but those stories have to be real, be messy - otherwise they aren't real. I remember writing the first hard, messy post - knowing God called me to write it - and the sending - and I found that there are women who struggle just like I do - and who have blessed me with their grace and mercy - and it is their prayers and support that lifted me up during the hard challenge. Definitely not pefect at my place:) Thank you for sharing your sweet heart!

  5. Jess, this is the first time I have visited your blog. Thank you so much sharing your heart and it is so good to know that there are others in blog land that aren't "perfect"! I have only been blogging since early this summer so I am REALLY a newbie! I am a 50 something (actually, a lot of somethings) and I am SO not perfect as well! I started blogging mostly to share my photos and a few thought here and there. I am certainly no writer, although I just try to share my heart. I prayed that if I started this and it became more about me than others, I would stop. Just when I was ready to give it up (because I felt that every thought and thing I did was centered around my next post) I started to receive comments here and there from ladies who had been blessed or encouraged in some way by one of my posts. I felt like it was God's way of telling me it was OK to continue. You are going to bless so many others by being so open and honest about yourself, I'm sure....God bless you and your blog!


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